As you know, I was in the military. For active duty, at least, there are plenty of rules for parents, especially single parents. What happened with this person was a shame. It shouldn’t have happened because the Soldiers and Sailors Relief Act should not have allowed the custody dispute to go on while this soldier was deployed. All legal actions are supposed to be put on hold until the deployment is over. Leave doesn’t count as the end of the deployment. Someone messed up big time and it wasn’t the soldier. Now, Debbie Schlussel asked if males got the same treatment. The answer is yes, they do. When children are involved, the sex of the parent does not matter.
Personally, I think gender does matter. Children if they can only be with one parent, if possible should default to their mother, as is typically the case in most states. This is a standard America once understood a little better than today.
And if a woman has children under 18, the military should not have that mother on active duty, unless it’s some desk job where she stays at the base with her kids and just goes to work during the day. (Obviously I’m not really big on nations sending women to war, but it’s just an opinion. I’m not writing Congress to change the rules on that, but if the wind blew the right way I would fire off a letter in a second about mothers with children.)
Kids seeing daddy go off to war, OK. Kids seeing mommy go off to war, not OK.
June 11th, 2007 at 8:45 pm
As you know, I was in the military. For active duty, at least, there are plenty of rules for parents, especially single parents. What happened with this person was a shame. It shouldn’t have happened because the Soldiers and Sailors Relief Act should not have allowed the custody dispute to go on while this soldier was deployed. All legal actions are supposed to be put on hold until the deployment is over. Leave doesn’t count as the end of the deployment. Someone messed up big time and it wasn’t the soldier. Now, Debbie Schlussel asked if males got the same treatment. The answer is yes, they do. When children are involved, the sex of the parent does not matter.
June 11th, 2007 at 9:16 pm
Personally, I think gender does matter. Children if they can only be with one parent, if possible should default to their mother, as is typically the case in most states. This is a standard America once understood a little better than today.
And if a woman has children under 18, the military should not have that mother on active duty, unless it’s some desk job where she stays at the base with her kids and just goes to work during the day. (Obviously I’m not really big on nations sending women to war, but it’s just an opinion. I’m not writing Congress to change the rules on that, but if the wind blew the right way I would fire off a letter in a second about mothers with children.)
Kids seeing daddy go off to war, OK. Kids seeing mommy go off to war, not OK.